Our greatest enemy is our ego.
When we discipline our ego and control it, we win the toughest war in life.
Educated and wise people have a balanced and well-rounded ego because they know how small they are in the realm of universe. On the other hand, those who know little, think they know everything and have big egos.
A big ego is the source of all pain. It prevents a person from loving, opening up and seeing the truth.
A big ego takes everything personally and makes it a big thing affecting all relationships negatively.
A big ego wants to win every time, and at any expense.
A big ego wants to be superior and have things its way.
A big ego feels powerful and uses this power to destroy others.
A big ego holds you back.
People who have big ego tend to blame, judge, criticize, complain and gossip.
Big egos identify themselves with all positive traits, and apply negative traits to others. They like to label people their own way.
Big egos feel entitled to happiness, success, and all material possessions, and think they have the right to get angry and upset at situations. They don’t understand the randomness of life.
Big egos need others. They need them to reflect and enhance their own image.
According to Eckhart Tolle, in his book “A new Earth”, anger, resentment, fear and envy are products of the ego: “The most common ego identifications have to do with possessions, the work you do, social status and recognition, knowledge and education, physical appearance, special abilities, relationships, person and family history, belief systems, and often nationalistic, racial, religious, and other collective identifications. None of these is you.”
He leads us to the way to free ourselves from the Ego. Tolle suggests we
- Observe our thinking and recognize any negative thoughts.
- Distinguish between the voice of Ego and the real situation.
- Change pessimism to optimism because pessimism is limiting. You do that by describing the situation without getting too emotional: “This happened. I have to deal with the new situation and do that.”
- Don’t fight our ego because this way we make it stronger. We just need to recognize it in our thinking and approach situations with little or no expectations.
Ego is the ‘I’ that differentiates us from others and shows our uniqueness and individuality. A healthy uninflated ego will open our mind, heart and life to true happiness.